Becoming Visible

“I’m so proud of this video … I just wonder if other lesbians OR folks in the gay community OR plus size girls have felt as frustrated as I am that there is very little visibility, if at all, of their bodies in music videos.” –Mary Lambert

Love love love love love. Yes, frustrated. Yes, delighted. Yes, more please. More from Mary Lambert. More from everyone. This is just about the sweetest video ever.

Mary Lambert – She Keeps Me Warm

Do What You Love

Years ago, a friend of mine introduced me to the fabulousness of Florence Foster Jenkins, an astonishing singer with more guts and determination (and possibly delusions) than most of us have. The first song of hers I heard was Mozart’s Queen of the Night aria, Der Hölle Rache, from The Magic Flute. It was etched so firmly into my psyche as the “right” way to sing this song that anytime I hear it sung the socially acceptable and appreciated way, it sounds wrong to me. Boring. Uninspired. Technically perfect but utterly lacking in soul, style or personality.

“People may say I can’t sing,” she said, “but no one can ever say I didn’t sing.”

So last week, when another friend posted this 8-year old girl’s rendition of her favourite aria, I had to have a listen, and I was not disappointed. On the contrary, I was completely entertained and thoroughly thrilled for her. She strikes a beautifully Continue reading

The Gift of Darkness

“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.” – Carl Jung

I came across this quote a couple of days ago and thought, “Yes. This is so true.” Yesterday, I came across this news item from Atlanta, Georgia:

Antoinette Tuff: Meet the Woman Who Prevented a Mass School Shooting Yesterday

The potent part is in watching the interview.

What I take away from this article and interview is this: the experiences in Tuff’s life allowed her to have compassion for this distraught and mentally unstable 20-year-old, ready to end his own life and the lives of so many others. The darkness she endured helped Continue reading

Fanning the Right Flames: Cultivating Mental Discipline

I have been dropped into fire. This is about mental discipline.

I recently finished my level one certification in Reiki. I love it. I love the balance that near-daily meditation has brought to my life and I love learning to channel this healing energy. These practices are changing me for the better. They are showing me where my weak spots are and presenting me with challenge after challenge, while also soothing my weary soul, body, and mind, and lifting my spirit immeasurably when I’m able to give Reiki to others. It is deeply satisfying for me.

This morning, I was up at 8:15. I went to the bathroom, then came upstairs and waited about 5 minutes for my partner to gather his things and leave for his workday. I sat down and began breathing.

Not three minutes later, I could hear little footsteps on the stairs. Continue reading

Coming full circle: Christianity

I was raised Catholic. Went to Catholic school from K-8, wore the uniform, went to mass every Friday morning and once a month on Tuesdays. I never fit in. It never spoke to me. The rituals always seemed hollow and meaningless and confession was a joke — as though another human being had the power to absolve me of my supposed sins. I used to make up sins just to have something to say the rare times we were taken down to the church for confession (the church, at the time, was in the lower level of the school). Yes, I lied in the confessional and I don’t feel a single pang of guilt about it. In fact, I find it more than a bit humorous.

When everybody in my 8th grade class of 25 was signing up for confirmation classes, I was the only one who didn’t sign up. My Italian Catholic grandmother was less than pleased, but the guilt trips she tried had no effect. By age 12, I knew I didn’t live my life for other people. This, too, did not please her, but if ever she said, “How could you do this to me?” I have steadfastly blocked it from memory. Continue reading

Start Small

So many people buy into the Go Big or Go Home approach that starting anything can be intimidating if it’s out of your daily routine, daily habit, or general comfort zone.

My very awesome reiki instructor, Paul Lara of QiBelly, is starting a video series. Here’s his first, where he addresses trust, fear, love, and daily habits in under two minutes.

Taking Your Meditation to the Streets (Part 1)


In a recent email to a friend of mine, I asked if she meditated. The pace of our lives often feels so haywire that it’s hard to keep up with the daily insanity. It’s easy to feel like we’re running on autopilot while the days slip by and it can feel like we don’t even have the power to change anything at all. I told my friend to steal 5 minutes from her morning to just sit and breathe. Just sit and follow her breath. Set the timer on her phone and sit and breathe.

It’s a way to carve out a time to be in your body. Life happens in the present moment and so often we’re somewhere else. Sitting and being in our body helps bring us back to the present moment. It is only in the present moment that change can take place. Be where your body is, as the saying goes.

5 minutes.

You can do it.

I hereby give you permission to start small.

The Backson Post

Gon Out. Backson. Bisy Backson.

I have happily spent the past long weekend doing social things with lots of different friends. I have managed to connect with people for many hours at a time every day since Friday. As such, I’m feeling pretty good but have consequently had little time to compose any new posts. And despite having ideas, the drive has been muted somehow due to full on exhaustion. You see, I’ve been spending time writing and researching when I should be sleeping. I’ve been doing this for months now because it’s the only time I’ve really had available to me without the three-ring circus soundtrack of my beautiful boys bickering, brawling, and begging for this or that. So it appears I’ve hit a bit of a wall with the sleep debt, which means that posts here will be a little less frequent than the every 3-4 days I was managing for awhile. I will be back when I’m able to make some writing time for myself.

In the meantime, I’ve been listening to Caroline Myss’s Energy Anatomy cd series and have been reading her Anatomy of the Spirit. Completely right up my alley. Will be finishing up my level one reiki certification this weekend with the fantastic Paul Lara at QiBelly. I’m totally digging this energy thing. It’s like we’re made of it or something. 😉

Time for sleep.